The Hardest Job There Is....

The hardest Job there is??? If you said mother, you are right....but not for the obvious reasons. Yes, getting up in the middle of the night to make a bottle, change a diaper, rub the back of your little one throwing up, laundry (because the appearance of a child reflects right back on the parent), making dinner (which Iam quilty of not always doing... yes a trip to the mexican place or mcdonalds is so much easier), helping with math homework that you havent had to do in 15 years and are now supposed to "just know how"...One night my 14 year was looking for a pair of shorts, I told him where they may be and he said "no, they arent there", I then said "I dont know"....his response was "but you have to know your the mama"...So, all above mentioned are valid reasons to why being a mother is a hard job, however what makes it the hardest job is much deeper! Being a mother is the hardest job because you have to listen to your baby cry in pain and have no clue how to fix it, its listening to your teenager cry because he has gotten his heart broken for the first tme and you cant go beat up the girl that broke it , its your teenager learning valuable lessons, even if you hate how they had to learn them. After thinking about what happened to Michael last night I came to realize something about people, myself and my son! I learned that some people(adults) are cruel, cold hearted and just plain mean towards children. That there are adults who either were not the "star" athlete, the beauty queen or mr. popular when they were kids so they take it out on the children that they coach or teach that are. The inner child of that adult is still so jealous of that "cool" kid that even as an adult they will be cruel to a child just because they can! This is something I as a mom cannot chage, all I can do is teach my children that there are people out there in this world like that and to never let them discourage them! Throughout all this what did I learn about myself....well, I learned that there is nothing in this world I wont do or say for the defense of my children. If it results in being talked about, not liked etc...then I dont care. Both my children are still under the age of 18, so that makes me the "mouth" for them! I learned that as children get older the job of mom gets even harder. I learned that mending a scrapped knee is nothing to trying to help heal a broken heart or crushed self-esteem. Now, what I learned from my 14 year old is this...my son is an incredible individual. Instead of getting so mad and yelling he did the "grown up" thing and he confronted his coach. Now, did he get an actual answer...No, but he showed that coach that he had confidence, he showed him that he is someone who wont just lay there and let people walk all over him, he showed that coach that he has a voice! Now, does it mean that Michael will get every award out there, no....but to know that my son had the self-esteem and self confidence to stick up for himself is the best award he can have!! Michael will be something in life, be it an athlete, vet or business man....he will be successful! He will be successful because he had to learn something that not all the "coaches kids" had to do, or the adults who get jobs because daddy gives them the job....he learned that in this world you must work hard and give it your all if you want to succeed ON YOUR OWN!!!  In the end, when Michael is grown and off being successful, I wonder where certian individuals will be...I mean us moms and dads dont live forever!!!

Give credit where credit is due!!

My son Michael is an athlete. He plays baseball and basketball. He attends Hillcrest Christian School. He recently decided that he was going to switch schools to the public school to play baseball. Well, when the teachers/coaches at Hillcrest found out they sat Michael down on two different days and practically begged him to stay, giving him many reasons to stay a cougar...by his basketball coach he was told that "he was a leader", that he had a way of "motivating the team"....well well...I guess Michaels hard work and dedication meant nothing!!! Last night at the awards ceremony for basketball one of the awards was given for leadership, motivating the team etc... one, forget one...many would think that michael would get it, well he didnt...infact the one who got it was probably in as much shock as some of us in the crowd!!! The child who got it is just that a child so I wont list reasons why I feel Michael deserved it more....But what I will say is this....coaches need to realize the power they have in encouraging AND discouraging a child. In many cases a coach has much more power than a parent alone! Some lessons Michael learned last night are....dont believe or trust anyone who says "Michael, you can trust me"....he learned that someones "word" means nothing, he learned that nomatter how much hard work you put into something unless you kiss the rear of a coach or dig deep in those pockets there is no payoff!! I wonder if this coach even realizes the lessons he taught Michael last night....Im guessing NOT and I also guessing he doesnt care!! When someone has a job, opportunity handed to them by daddy they never learn to have to work for something!! At this point I count down the days til gradution!! Maybe college will be more of a fair game!!